Ikan Bilis Group Leaders Material- BGR
Sunday, August 21, 2005

Before I start, I was just thinking, of a name for the group to be. "Wanted to be Caught" or "Catch Me" or "Fish me" group.

I think I would need 2 lessions for BGR

This week we will focus on the why, next week we will focus on how.

This week we will do something different. When we gather back we would need you to present to the group, between the girls and the guys, so I want you to get your people ready.

As I have mentioned today, we need to be more prepared for our lession, not just the preparation of lessions but also the bringing of stationeries. So for this case, you need the pens and papers, and photocopy the questionaire to them. Please don't ask me on that day!

We will do "Loving for A lifetime" questionaire this week.

And we will touch on question 1-4, we will skip 5, instead we will read Gen 2:18-25 from the Seeking Purity in Boy-Girl relationship and do the study from there.

We will do it together as Boys groups and girls. We will gather as usual except that I would need all to be located in the same room, which mean the girls outside and the guys inside the room. Leaders, you will then prompt the question, to them, when you finish one, set, you are to pass it to me, for the girls, to Mei Huan.

Mei Huan and me would then consolidate the answer and put it on the board.

For q1, you need not spend so much time, just few minutes
For q2, you need to spend more of it, but don't get overboard with it
For q3, you take your time to discuss, as we need not pass the answer for q3
For q4, you need to spend more time for thme to rank.

So for q 1,2,4 we would pass it to me for the boys and Mei Huan for the girls.

Then do the discussion of Genesis. Establish 3 things

1. Adam is create to serve God. So is our purpose, first to serve God and be concern for God. fulstop. No other purpose. We cannot say, we serve God purpose and God will serve ours, that is to find a spouse. That is never thought about, just like Adam, it was not even Adam concern but to serve God only.

2. When Adam needs help, God get Adam to have authority over the animal first(by naming the animals), then he get him the helper. Why?

Is it because God made a mistake? No, that's because what Adam needs is physical help first. Just like us, if we are to serve God, we need all the skill and wisdom for it. But then there comes phase 2. We need a helper. So what does a woman differ from the animal...so one who Adam can relate. both socially and sexually. vs 25

3. God say..it is not good for man to be alone. He made him authority over animals and provided a companion for him. Notice it is not lonely but alone. We can be not alone yet lonely, and we can be alone yet not lonely. Notice, when God rejected man, due to their sin, man fall into loneliness. Thus it is a grave mistake to think that if we are lonely, by having a bf or gf, would solve the problem. We have find love in all the wrong places.

What can we conclude here?
That the reason why we look at the bf and gf as THE most important thing is because it is have focus the wrong thing in life, we should have focus on Christ, but instead we look at our selves, and all we see is our want, our craves and our lust. Our pride comes in an say, why should we look at God, and we forgotten about what Christ has given to us, we forgotten the salvation story. And what happen is our loneliness creep in. And when we see that by having a bf or gf seen to be so cool and so addictive and a nice feeling, we replaced God with the desire.

Posted by Sheep In Wolf Clothing 11:04 PM